10 things to take Note off

Ola ola ..

Yesterday i was ranting about reflections &;;; past.. today im gona change my arrows- im gona blab about more lessons on life...

Since ive been abit dark the past week i figure there is no harm to pour it all here since sharing is caring. besides; what i learned from my past & mistakes; its something u guys can learn from me.. which to take note off;

just incase there would be a encounter with such people in the future.

Things you gotta take note-off: 

1. Doing business with friends - money changes everything. if you think u're not on the same page (50-50 ; pay as u go; instalments or discounts or whatever relates to money) then dont go at all. Take note: sometimes a big discount or slash price cost you more. Eg: more problems in future that may delay your end product; or they just dont bother to make a good quality end product due to the slashed prices. So best to get good discounts from good friends cos they tend to care. and ; make sure if u're dealing business with friends - make sure its win-win; comfortable for both sides. Trust me; if not its gona be one long winding unhappy road. 
2. Trust &; Confiding - Never assume a friend will always be on your side cos you never know how much you actually know about them until something happens & cause chaos in your friendship zone. No its not that friends dont last forever. they do. But not every friend speaks or think for our best interest. its human nature; they think for their best interest & sometimes u get very lucky having a friend who thinks for your best interest. and thats a friend for keeps. So be careful to whom you trust & confide cos you dont want everything thrown back at you if the friendship goes sour.
3. Give the benefit of doubt - i know sometimes it sounds hard when we get a lil but cynical with this pretentious money hungry lil world. but sometimes; staying neutral is as good as can be for our soul cos everyone has their own personal reasons on doing things they did. Im sure you have your bad days & wrong made choices based on what u think was best before (but not u knew it wasnt so--) See? im sure we all have our reasons ,,.be forgiving & they will forgive you....
4. No money; dont get it just yet - well seems like an every girl dream if we see one around us loves flashing off her new LV or new Gucci shoes ; making the other girls clan envious of her latest jive in fashion on how she can afford them & how nice it fits her... bla bla bla... ok we get the point; they got good taste - good fancy stuff to show off. and those who cant afford it? dont fall for the trap. dont increase your credit card debt for all those. totally not worth it. So- for those envious chics out there; dont fret - no money? dont get it just yet. learn to save. learn to value your money. Only buy what u can afford ; if u want fancy? save em'. cos in the end showing off doesn't bring u anywhere. money still flies; fashion still fades after few months. 
5. Dream stealers are not worth it. - Have u had friends who laughs at your hopeful wishful thinkings and stomped them as if they dont matter? or had friends who push you out of your way so that they have it theirs? or maybe friends who pretend to care but they dont - cos they want something from you? or pretentious friends who laughs with you but truthfully laughs at you behind your back? well- we all go through that stage. we get laughed at- gossiped about- condemned about & bla bla the list goes on and on. Well- first of all stop making friends with dream stealers. but sometimes not easy to spot one cos they might be camouflaging. So trust our instincts - take notes. if you notice u get uncomfortable each time; u got time & money bullied, teased & laughed whenever u got a good idea, being pushed to do things for them -- then u may have a dream stealer friend there. No point keeping one cos u gona end up losing urself more; losing ur confidence more. Plus; good friends are suppose to make u feel good. thats what good friends all about.
6. When saying No = Means NO. This goes out for girls out there who gets constantly picked-up by random persistent men who wants more than what they can have aka friendship. True; a girl's worth value is known from her saying No. Seriously. when a girl says No; it gives her self respect and self respected women are adored by many men & they know they cant screw self respect women. 
7. Friendships are 2 ways. We all have friends to rely on. whether they are close friends from childhood, or met in school or even the college gang we met back then. Point is friendship is when we are there for each other through thick and thin. Along the years we held each other's back and from there we develop a strong bond. but.. at some point; friendships can goes a different direction too.. and how do we start losing friends? we grew apart, we become different people, we develop new likes & dislikes, we went into different field of work, we got married; and so the list continues on... But if we always end up coming back to each other - dont u think we are mates for life? perhaps... So friendships are always 2 way. There is always a time when either party wana take a break from one another; but the wanting to keep being at each other worlds - now that's friendship. and u can never begin a friendship when one claps one side. So- whenever u want stay friends & u get the feeling's mutual. quite often; thats friendship.
8. Mind your manners - Sometimes in life- we get bugged by plenty of annoying lil things. lil petty stuffs and keep making our minds go crazy. what we call that? the lil things that makes us go insane? "the pet peeves"... well.. examples goes from the way a person chews with mouth open, the way a person keep lying without guilt even the smallest things, snoring habits, forgetfulness, laughing like hyena, perfectionist, hygiene people, farters, pets hater, noise intolerable, screamers, grumpy, loud handphone talkers in cinema, cutting qs, unhygienic food fetish and anything u can think of that belongs to the list. these can goes a long way if we start to notice...  but life's always full with unique and weird likings of others including our very own annoying list. So what do we do? tell them to their face? or just shut-up and leave em? isnt it normal what we like is a person's dislike. what we dislike is another's liking. So we learn to accept them for who they are; what they do & let go the annoying feeling we have. (unless it bothers us totally - esp the gross parts) But that doesn't mean we cant give a lil nice gesture "Please & Thank you" to these annoying habits right? So why not start with Please and end with thank you. im pretty sure the person whom we are annoyed at would have manners to tone down for a lil just bit to make the world a peaceful living.
9. Do not walk alone in the dark or in dark alleys - How many crimes we read in the papers that involve missing people; robbed or stolen cars after the sun goes down. too many. i mean there are some daylight crimes - but often crime rates rising would be after dark hours when the world is much blind to see. Ladies, teenagers & children especially are always the target of the crime. cos they're the easy nabbed victims and too much we get back stories of how hurt they get after crime. and mind u; rapes are included too. So watch out for strangers; like our mums always tells us "do not talk to strangers even they wana give us sweets" same goes to adults; same goes for teenagers. And stay of dark roads; alleys & corners. cos its never safe to walk alone in the city. There is no superman or batman in reality. we all have to learn to take care of ourselves; our safety being. Even if u're a guy or u have black belt; chances are walking alone is still hazardous. Attackers can be in groups or armed. chances are slim to be a hero either. So best is to stay off dark areas; if had to; get someone to walk with you or get a protection (pepper spray, loud horn etc etc) Better safe than too late.
10. Compliments do works best - if u notice around you; how many times u hear a complain and how many times u hear a good review? well to be honest - Ratio complain to ompliment goes to 10: 3.. haha yes it is that bad. Too often we live in the world to complain when we get bad service, bad tv, bad food, bad entertainment, bad movie and bla bla bla. and so we malaysians like to complain alot. why? cos all of us live in the world of entitlement. that we are entitled to have good service; good this and that. very true. but how often did we praise if things goes good? do u always go tell you neighbor how pretty their garden is or tell the chef how fabulous the food is? how often is that? even in a restaurant; i can guarantee most reviews are more negative than positive. True we can complain; but whats wrong praising either? So we praise if we like something; so we say we enjoy their services; we are happy; why not? whats wrong with saying the good of their services? looks at this way: how it feels to have someone constantly telling how much weight u gain vs how much weight u lose? chances are u become more friends with the one praising right? So balance up a bit; complain if u Must; Compliment u should must more. lets make a peaceful world.

So.. thats all for today,,, a lil wisdom to share.. 

perhaps nextime i will share more on other stuffs... till then. toodles!