How to know is he THE ONE?

Love is a blissful feeling and when someone is in love, emotions run high. While the heart takes the center stage, the head is left far behind. Everything appears rosy and lovey-dovey for the twosome. However, when it comes to making a choice as a lifetime partner, almost everyone is confused. Even after loving a person for months, things might take an uncertain turn. So, the most likely thing that you should follow is to listen to the head. While the heart has done the job it is now the turn of the head to act wisely and rationally and show signs that would indicate that he is the one for you. Read on and find out how to know he’s the one for you.

Signs That He Is The One For Me 

• The most important thing is that you should be comfortable with him. It is often that only our family and close friends know what we actually are. Others see only a specific part of our personality. If he knows about each and every aspect of your personality and still loves you, only then is he the one for you.
• The best way to know that a guy is the perfect one for you is to play a memory game with yourself. When you are in love, you unknowingly remember all the important dates - the first meeting, first kiss, birthday and dates that are important to you both. Does he remember all this?
• Make sure that you are in love with the ‘natural’ him. You must like him even when he is not all dressed up and does not look his best. The more you love him the way he is naturally, the more you get closer in the relationship.
• Check on to find if he is a decent boy, with good mannerism. It might seem not necessary right now, but will become very important in the future.
• Do you talk about him often? Are you comfortable talking about something he has done, with your closest pal or family? Do you see him alongside your father playing games at a picnic?
• It is also very important for you to feel comfortable with him while discussing things about your past and also about your future. You should be able to visualize yourself with him in the next five or ten years, happily married and leading a contented life.
• Both of you should have similar grounds - your outlook in life should not be very distant from the other. Otherwise, it will surely create rough edges in the future. It might look okay now, but would turn out to be a serious problem when you are together.
• It is also very necessary to find out what he thinks about you. Though he might not tell you the thing he dislikes about you, he might say this to someone close or during times when he thinks you are not listening. Pretend to sleep. At times, men often say what they feel for a woman when she is asleep. This can be the best way of knowing his feelings.
• Lastly, have a long-term vision for yourself. If a guy is the on for you, he will be someone you can be happy with, for a long time. He should be able to keep you in high spirits always and encourage you to grow. He should be able to make you feel good about yourself.

IT can happen in the blink of an eye. Attraction. Excitement. Romance. But for too many Sisters who are searching for Mr. Right (not Mr. Right Now), the game of love is a crooked road of broken promises where the coveted jackpot, referred to as "the one," is too late, long-gone or maybe destined to never show at all.

But there is hope.

"Although there is risk in love, there are also great rewards when passion and purpose fall within the right embrace," says Dr. Grace Cornish, author of 7 Spiritual Truths to Recognize and Marry Your Very Own Soul Mate. So before you jump on the twisted path of romance, familiarize yourself with the signs you'll encounter along the way, and recognize which will lead your hopes and heart to the man of your dreams. The following tips should help you gauge the possibilities and help you determine if he's "the one":

• He Listens to You. Before your man opens his heart to you, he has to first open his ears. "Genuine concern manifests itself in listening to the cares, concerns and issues of your woman," says Anthony Woodson, president and CEO of BlackLoveForever.com, a matchmaking service that has resulted in nearly 500 marriages. "A man who wants to be around you for the long-term will be a good listener when you need him. He will be a dependable source of guidance and support and will not turn a deaf ear simply because the problem is too big. If he doesn't know the solution, he will try his best to find one."
• There is a Natural Ease and Flow. Relationship experts say there is a natural chemistry that defines your interaction when you meet your perfect fit. "You don't have to push it, force it, tug it, pull it or cut the edges to make it fit," says Debrena Jackson Gandy, international speaker and author of All the Joy You Can Stand. "There is an undeniable ease and flow to the relationship. You can see it and others around you can as well."
• You Don't Have to Compromise Who You Are. A person who you have to change for isn't the person for you. "You should maintain and enjoy a continued, if not healthier, sense of self when you are with your partner," says Tandra McMurray, a 30-something Chicago single who has had her share of "Mr. Wrongs." "He should make you feel good about being you, while always encouraging you to be better. If a man doesn't feel good about himself, it will be hard for him to make you feel good about being you."
• He Sacrifices For You. The right man will consider sacrificing for you an honor, not a burden. "When he is willing to give you what belongs to him, even before you ask for it, you know that he is serious about you," says Woodson. "It's not considered a 'sacrifice' when it's done with a good heart; it's an investment in the future of two people. Whether it's time, money or energy, a man will give what he has to the woman he wants."

Although these tips serve as a good guideline for women who want to know if he's "the one," Dr. Grace Cornish counsels single women to not get caught up looking for love in a certain package. "If you think he's the one, don't write him off just because he's not wearing a certain suit or driving a certain car," she says. "Get to know who he is and what his values are. After moving beyond the physical, you can enter the emotional and spiritual, where you'll find love and opportunity waiting and smiling back at you."

Nikitta A. Foston "10 ways to tell if he's the one". Ebony. FindArticles.com. 23 Jan, 2011. http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m1077/is_6_60/ai_n13503193/