Letting-go

Elo wet thursdays...happy u came &; went. and i hope today is gona remain as good as the weather is. not too gloomie. not too sunny. just nice.

and good part is tomoro is friday! huhu.. best la lak another weekend coming. Xmas  lak tu... too bad u fall on a saturday if not we sure gona one long break lagi kan kannnn

So today i wana blab about being the goodness of "Letting Go". 

Let's face it. Many of us choose to hang on to things that at some point have hurt us, angered us, made us feel sad, or depressed us. If we choose to hang on to them, we will never move forward and we could even create physical or medical damage to our bodies. To prevent this from happening we need to let go but no one really tells you how to let go and move forward. Sure it's easy to say: "Just let go, move forward, forget about it, just let go." But that really doesn’t work. Here's some reading i wana show you how to let go and start moving forward.

Why You Need to Let Go and Move Forward.

Throughout our lives we go through different experiences, some are positive and some we see as negative and unpleasant. When you hang on to a negative or unpleasant experience you are constantly thinking about it. And when you constantly think about that negative event you prevent yourself from healing. How many pleasant memories do you recall everyday? Chances are you're like most people and you have a number of unpleasant experiences that you're holding on to, which is preventing you from moving forward.

The more you carry the worse life gets. Why? Because you've filled your mind up with negative experiences, because you continually hang on to something that doesn't allow you to move forward, in short, you're carrying useless baggage that's really slowing you down.

Think of it this way: you're on a hiking trip and along the way you keep picking up heavy objects, things that really don't serve you. After a while, these objects begin to slow you down and unless you get rid of them, you'll never complete your trip.

To let go you have to get your mind to focus on different goals and different objectives. It's not about saying: I let go of the pain from my fight with ---- and move on. That will help, but if you really want to start moving on, then you have to get your mind to focus on new things, in the process you automatically let go of the things that have been slowing you down.

How to Let Go and Move Forward

Researchers believe that that if you hold on to negative feelings, sad emotions or depressing memories there is a possibility that you could reshape the human cell to the point where your thoughts of the past have a negative effect on your cells and your physical health.

Hanging on to negative past events is a process that can destroy your life in ways you're not even aware of. 

Ask yourself these questions: Do the negative things you hang on to serve you any purpose? Do they help you move forward? Do they work in your favor in any way?

If you said no to any or all of the above then tell yourself this: This emotion/feeling doesn't help me so I'm letting it go and focusing on what is important. Then begin focusing on what you want next, focus on what is important and what can improve your life. This is a simple process that gets the mind moving in a new direction and you stop building negative energy created from the negative events/emotions, which only attracts more negative situations. When you begin focusing on more positive things you begin attracting positive situations.

The next step is to create an action plan, the past is over. Where do you want to go now and how do you plan to get there? You may not have the answers but merely thinking about the options forces your mind to go in a new direction and you automatically let go of unwanted feelings and emotions.

The key to your success is to train your mind to move in a new direction so you send new messages to your subconscious mind, which then brings you the opportunities to move forward.

The final step is to live in the present moment, to start living in the now. Living in the now is different than living for the moment. Living in the now is the process of enjoying everything that is going on at this present moment. 

Take a look around you and appreciate those things that you once thought were trivial. When you are here now you can be nowhere else. You are not hanging on to something, you are here now. I know some of you may say the following: "But Karim, where I am right now really sucks, I don't want to think about it."

 It only sucks because you're looking at all the negative things going on. Focus on a few of the positive things anything from nature to the wonderful family you may have. This forces your mind to look at things differently and tells your subconscious mind that you're ready for new possibilities, then you’ll begin to let go and move forward.

And here's a poem how Letting Go changes the way you love....

LETTING GO TAKES LOVE

To let go does not mean to stop caring,

   it means I can't do it for someone else.

To let go is not to cut myself off,

   it's the realization I can't control another.

To let go is not to enable,

   but allow learning from natural consequences.

To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means

   the outcome is not in my hands.

To let go is not to try to change or blame another,

   it's to make the most of myself.

To let go is not to care for,

   but to care about.

To let go is not to fix,

   but to be supportive.

To let go is not to judge,

   but to allow another to be a human being.

To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,

   but to allow others to affect their destinies.

To let go is not to be protective,

   it's to permit another to face reality.

To let go is not to deny,

   but to accept.

To let go is not to nag, scold or argue,

   but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,

   but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.

To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody,

   but to try to become what I dream I can be.

To let go is not to regret the past,

   but to grow and live for the future.

To let go is to fear less and love more

       and

To let go and to let God, is to find peace !

Remember: The time to love is short

  ------ author unknown