Test of a friend

 Helo wednesday! u're back again and before we know it... weekend is popping by soon :) huhu..

Its been a long week for me this week. More like deadlines & worries.. and of course challenges ...

i guess biasela life; not many share the same opinion & views like us.

Some choose to say plain No, some like to go around the bush with their many2 reasons and perhaps there are few who just simply don't care (pretend kot) or keep their plain mouth shut.

This week was among one of life lessons we all should take note in event of a conflict. 

and no; i aint gona ramble & openly criticize anyone here. sory la not my kinda cup.

Well we all know friendships are 2 ways. when one party wana be friends; the other reciprocate.

One ask for coffee this time, the other asks for lunch nextime. truth is: not easy to keep doin so in our busy busy as bee lives. But again i point this out; friendship is both ways. 

So when one friend decides to unfriend the other party, what should the other do?

So they should move on. make new friends and forget the effort despite being friends the past 10 years. (shish. thinking about 10years is a long time to throw that kinda frenship kannn)

but to what extend can we keep a friendship lasting despite all conflicts arising, jealousy & envy? To what  extend  when nobody wana give and jus wana take?

So here's one thing they dont teach us in school. 

when one friend turns their back on us; backstabbing us, talks behind our back and be fake, always need us but not there when we need them, asking for favor that makes life difficult, keeps us in trouble, friends for the money, fame or for the peer pressure and worst hasut us to make bad decisions and list goes on... then we Must know that is Not a Friend. infact they're foes who keep us in their lives for their benefit. i call em' leeches. dad calls em' dream stealers

To me real friendship is much deeper than all that. Friends who stood by u and u stood by them all years knowing their real character and yet stick by u no matter what. and of course what is life without the drama.. even mishaps, miscommunication and girl fight. but real friends stays. despite all that. nonetheless.

Of course there are some friends that we should keep them at arm's length. knowing who they really are perhaps put us in the other side of the wall. then again maybe we didn't have that chance to get to know them better. we should if we have that chance. for all u know u might got so much in common!...

So morale of story i think life is too short to make Frenemies (frens turned to enemies). i know quite some people who brings with them Mean girls + high school attitude to their adult lives. And in the end i pity them cos all they ever want to do is get tangled up in their high school drama, which is full of crap.

So to all my friends out there; whoever & wherever u are; if i ever offended u or not in purpose salah cakap, ter perli, ter makan and ter act in whatever way which may have hurt u - id like to apologize. Sometimes in life; we tend to do stuff/say things we dont realise...so here is my public apology okeees...

One thing i learnt from my dad -- jus bcos the person hurt u doesnt mean we can stoop low to their level. 

plus we never know what we will become or they will become in the next years to come. 

Cos nabi always say Jangan Taksub or Bongkak. So its better to stay friends or neutral for least. 

So to summ up; life is tooo shortt to make any enemies. live life and be happy. if some 'so-called frens' dont like us being happy and drag us down with em; ignore them (not worth fighting for) and make new real frens. 

"A true friend is anything but jealousy and envy."